Communication in Dating

***This may not seem spiritual but since the whole (online) dating thing is relatively new, and with that an item for many spiritual people, I feel it's very much suited to post in the forums!***

All dating coaches tell you to come up with some good things to say and then things to ask in order to help the man out.
Men often don't know what to say, how to get a conversation going, can feel insecure etc. etc.
If you then don't help the conversation along you quickly remain stuck at the "Hi, how was your day" level of boring crap.

It isn't really difficult to navigate these waters, it just takes some creative thinking which comes with a wee bit of practice and simply relaxing so you yourself aren't all nervous and tense. A good thing is to prepare some short things to say and/or ask and write them down.

Women then tend to ask, "Why the hell do I have to do the work?" The answer is, "Because you're the one that wants to get somewhere in dating!" So it's an investment in yourself.
Being good/better at conversing is a great skill in all aspects of life, so why not practise it and get good at it?!

You could for instance answer the "How was your day" question in a positive way if at all possible, but then add something else to it, could be totally unrelated, and then ask him about that. So if you'd say something about a movie or book, ask if he's watched a great movie/read a good book.
That gets a convo flowing, plus his reply gives insight in him.
Bear in mind, do NOT ask questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no" as then the convo gets stuck again. Make him think and come up with a real reply!

If he stays stuck at "okay", "good", "Dunno", and doesn't loosen up when you've tried this a few times... you say goodbye and move on.
That way you don't waste your precious time & energy on something that won't go anywhere.

And for any man reading this... you can do the exact same thing!

We may have learnt how to behave politely in society in real life, no one ever taught us how to do this online, certainly not in online dating!
So you have to become an auto-didact and teach yourself.
Or... the alternative... buy scripts from a dating coach to help you out and to get into the groove of a new way of communicating!
Fact that dating coaches actually made these scripts and sell them -AND the fact most of dating coaching revolves around this- tells you that almost everyone struggles with this!!
Meaning you're not alone!